- Switch
: 1) A person who enjoys taking either side in SM role or physical
play; i.e. top or bottom, dom or sub. 2) A slender flexible branch from a
tree or bush used for corporal punishment.
- Tampon
training : Rectal insertion of tampons by male submissives to
empathize with the female menstrual cycle.
- Tantric Yoga, Vajrayana Buddhism : Indian means
for achieving a transcendent spiritual state that incorporates sexual
and meditative techniques. There are many paths to enlightenment and
erotic exploration is one.
- Tawes.
taws : Thick rigid leather with a lengthwise slit (or slits) in it
used in a paddle-like fashion.
- Thud : A
blow that is felt at a deeper level than sting, Thud is usually easier
to tolerate, but may actually be more damaging as it can cause deeper
bruising.
- Tit
torture : Erotic play involving the breasts.
- Tolleyboy
: A locking chastity belt made in England of rubber-lined stainless
steel.
- Top :
One who takes the active role in physical scene, but not necessarily
emotional/mental control.
- Top's disease : A state of self-delusion wherein the top
believes his own fantasy of dominant superiority.
- Top-space
: A state of erotically altered consciousness (EAC) achieved during a
scene by the dominant or top. It is characterized by feelings of intense
focus, clarity of thought, a sense of extreme power or high energy,
and/or exhilaration. Feelings of distance and objectivity, as if one
where commanding from a mountaintop, may paradoxically accompany
feelings of connection to the submissive, as if there were a psychic
link. A dispassionate perspective may combine with erotic ardor. Top
space may be followed by either a continued sense of well-being or by
feelings of fatigue, depression, or lethargy. [see Post-scene plunge]
- Topping from the bottom : Maintaining the fiction that the
top is in charge, where the real control and direction of a scene rests
with the bottom. [see also, Bottoming from the top]
- Torture
: Actions that would be painful outside of their erotic context used to
enhance sexual pleasure for a bottom.
- Total conversion or the "ouchless
ouch" : Whips strokes or corporal stimuli delivered during an erotic
scene that begins light and rises gradually. The level of sexual
arousal is always kept at a high enough level so that the blows are
never experienced subjectively as pain.
- Training
: Any of many disciplines wherein the dom and sub act together to
modify the subâeTMs behavior, condition, and/or attitude. Includes, but is
not restricted to; pony training, anal training, position training,
voice command response, and so on.
- True Master/True submissive : A term of self-description
usually used by incompetent newcomers or lost-in-fantasy others to
entice a people to play with them. The "True Submissive" (or more
typically "Tue slave") is one who buys into the nonsense that the "Tue
Master" is selling. "True sadomasochism" is also used to allude to a
non-existent, "genuine" standard of SM excellence.
- TS,
Transsexual : A person who born in a physical gender that does not
match his or her personal psychology. These people are commonly going
through "gender reassignment" by means of counseling, hormone
treatments, and surgery to correct their situation. A TS is called a
"pre-op" before surgical modification and a "post-op" afterwards.
- TV,
Transvestite : A man or woman dressing in the clothing of the
opposite gender.
- Vampire
glove : Vampire gloves are most often thin leather driving gloves
that have sharp, metal tines or tacks lining the palms. The tines are
typically snap, or rhinestone settings that are poked through the
leather from the inside and glued in place, though some very mean gloves
utilize thumb or carpet tacks. Fur mitts can be embellished with tines
in the same manner, yielding textures from very nice to yowee!
- Vanilla
: Describes things, activities and people who are not part of the SM
scene, for example; "We had vanilla sex last night," meaning, "We had
sex without including any SM scene elements."
- Verbal humiliation/abuse : The use of sexual
epithets and similar verbalizations to excite or humble oneâeTMs partner.
Verbal humiliation is good when it is used to support the value of the
submissive. It becomes abuse when it is used to tear down the
self-esteem of the sub. The line between the two is not always clear and
may vary within one personâeTMs psyche depending upon mood. Use with
caution and sensitivity.
- Vinyl :
A material used for fetish fashions. [see PVC]
- Violet
wand : A static electricity generator, frequently with multiple
glass attachments including: globes, thin tubes, fork-shaped tubes,
etc., used to send virtually harmless, violet-colored static "lightning"
to a submissiveâeTMs skin.
- Virgin
rapture : Period of time (often years long) wherein newcomers are
so overwhelmed by SM that they think the world revolves around it and
can never imagine returning to any other form of sexuality. When the
infatuation ends feelings of disappointment and loss are common. It may
be reassuring to know that this is a normal process as SM is integrated
into a personâeTMs sexuality.
- Visualization
: The use of story-telling and verbal fantasy sharing to achieve a mood
or desired mind set prior to, or during a scene.
- Water
sports : Sexual play involving urine or enemas. [see Golden Showers
and Enema]
- Weights
: Lead fishing weights or other weights hung from clamps that are
attached to the body to increase torment. [see Clamps, Clamping]
- Whip : A
whip is an object used to beat on a submissive. Many people in the
scene use the term whip to include canes, crops, paddles, slappers,
etc., as well as single- and multiple-lash whips.
- Whipping
: 1) The act of beating a submissive or bottom. 2) Finishing a rope-end
to prevent fraying by wrapping it with thread or string.
- White
lightning : A common nickname for a white fiber glass or resin rod
often with a leather or rubber handle that is used as a cane. Being much
more dense than rattan, it can inflict deeper damage and the feel is
described as "cutting." [see Cane]
- Worship
: 1) To lavish attentions upon a part of the body, usually feet, pussy
or cock. 2) A role playing attitude toward a dominant, typically of a
male sub toward his goddess/mistress.
- Wrapping
: Allowing the tips of a whip or cane to strike parts of the body other
than the intended target. For example, aiming for the fanny and hitting
it, but the tips of the whip wrap around the fanny and strike the hip.
Bruising on the hips is often a sign of a careless or incompetent top
who is frequently unaware of the damage that is occurring.
- Wrist
cuffs : Restraints designed to fit the wrists. [see Cuff, Cuffing]
- X-frame
: A stationary bondage frame in the shape of an "X", usually mounted in
a horizontal position. [see St. Andrew's cross]
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